How to get over work phobia

[_Cathy_]

Getting Married? Where did that come from? hehehe

Thanks for the motivation I'm already taking baby steps in finding a job. When I do get one, I hope I could stay until retirement. My housewife friend tells me though that housewives work harder daw than those that go to the office.

[afrasay]

Baby steps? hmmm...wouldn't it be better if you take bigger steps, that way you'll go much farther.

[shadow]

IMO, no amount of prodding or motivation from people around you or from here will make you go to work kung ayaw mo talaga...nasa tao yan...for me kung ayaw, ayaw talaga kahit madali lang, kung gusto naman kahit anong adversities eh gagawin...

for me tingin ko ayaw mo talaga mag work, iba yun lip service eh, yun sinasabi na gusto ko pero.....??? there are a million reasons why you don't need to work, you can just pick a 100 reasons and pwede mo na gamitin ng buong buhay mo yun mga 100 na dahilan na huwag mag work...

you don't like office politics? kahit saan part ka ng mundo pumunta hinde mawawala yan, ayaw mo ng boss na matapang or naninigaw? it's not a perfect world honey, it is up to us to cope with the situation presented to us...

I'm sorry cathy but the reasons that you've mentioned were really shallow at least for me..phobia from your boss? it is not like you were molested or worse rape by your boss, normal lang yun nasisigawan...

me thinks your just making excuses not to work....

tama yun sabi nung isang poster

kung ayaw, maraming dahilan..
kung gusto, maraming paraan...

[CVT]

Getting Married? Where did that come from? hehehe

Thanks for the motivation I'm already taking baby steps in finding a job. When I do get one, I hope I could stay until retirement. My housewife friend tells me though that housewives work harder daw than those that go to the office.

That is true. Do not take baby steps. Take the plunge Sis!

When I was in my junior years in the company (still single then),- our plant GM, who's a foreigner, for some reasons I do not understand, was shouting at me everyday d*mn day, without fail, during his last 30 days with the company. It was hurting, yes, but these cr*p actions made me a stronger and a better person. "Through the fire, through the limit"....

For me, I encourage my wife to work. One of the reasons I got interested with her is because she's intelligent. Sayang naman ang pinag-aralan niya kung hindi niya magagamit ito professionally because in our opinion, we both graduated from one of the better schools in the country,- this is just me. I admit that it is harder for a wife to work and take care of the kids/family. But she's my Partner,- so I am sharing the responsibility with her. She may be dependent on me, but not totally. (We also finished our post-graduate studies in the same class from the 'other school' a few years ago, both with flying colors, while working and taking care of the family).

IMO, it's a safety net to our family just in case I lost my job or something happens... you know. A working wife will always be a bridge or an advantage, nowadays....

6000:mobile:

[empy]

there are many things in life and at the office that you cannot control.

but one thing you have complete control over, every single day, is your ATTITUDE.

get a job, come in with a positive attitude, and you'll be amazed at how well things will go for you. come to work with fear or disillusionment, and you'd have failed before you even began.

[CoDer]

Attitude cathy... attitude to win. That's all you need...

Primary reason I don't want to be employeed is because there will always be someone higher that you.

So what I did is hire myself, next target is to put up my own company. And I'm already working on it with my partners in Canada, possibilities could be endless. Here's the catch I came from a poor family, money is always a problem I can't afford graduate study even Certifications but that is not enough to stop me.

It's all up to you now. Baby step is not acceptable, tread it...

[_Cathy_]

When I was in my junior years in the company (still single then),- our plant GM, who's a foreigner, for some reasons I do not understand, was shouting at me everyday d*mn day, without fail, during his last 30 days with the company. It was hurting, yes, but these cr*p actions made me a stronger and a better person. "Through the fire, through the limit"....

You must have a really strong personality to have withstood that kind of treatment from your boss. In my case, I was so affected that I was physically getting sick.

How I wish I could work with my first boss again. Really nice, intelligent, and pretty (super). Plus she treats me like her baby sister. I miss those times when I couldn't wait til Monday coz I was actually excited to go to work. Iba talaga nagagawa pag mataas ang employee morale at maganda working relationships sa office. Too bad she's left the country already. My last boss looked like Ms Tapia at Dragon ang ugali.

[afrasay]

So, how's the job hunting?

[froshie1]

I know that I may get violent reactions from this post but I just need some suggestions from you guys.

I used to look forward to going to work. I loved my job, boss and officemates. It was like that for 3 1/2 years until I got transferred to another dept where the work was horrible and the boss was doubly horrible. I lasted less than a year coz I couldn't take it anymore. I'd cry in the ladies room every morning and it got to the point that I was getting sick almost every week. My frustration with my job was having physical manifestations already (BTW our whole team ended up being wiped out because of that boss. I was just the first one to leave). I told my Mom about my problem and I proposed that I'll take some time off work and take graduate studies instead. I promised her that I'll get a job as soon as I graduate. It took me 3 years to finish and now I'm done. I'm really lucky that my Mommy supported me totally in those 3 years and she paid for my studies. She said that my only job was to get good grades and find a good job after.

Now that I am done my Mom is expecting that I'd have work by now. I am actually embarrassed because I've been a PALAMUNIN for 3 years since I resigned. The problem is I've been out of the corporate world for 3 years and this hiatus I discovered is already paralyzing me with fear. Fear that I won't get a job. Fear of rejection. Fear of having a bad boss. Fear of having to put up with office politics. I also hate the thought of getting up at 5:30 in the morning.(I used to be a morning person) It seems like I've lost my enthusiasm for working. The only reason why I am looking for a job right now is because I am ashamed with my Mom na for being a PAL. hehe.

For those who are working, where do you get your enthusiasm? I need your replies badly because I'm slowly falling into depression.

My family motivates me to work.

The next time that you feel bad about working just thing that it's worst to be hungry and not to have money at all :-)

Actually Cathy kahit saan ka naman pumunta may mga Ms. Tapia diyan, hangga't empleyado tayo ganyan ang haharapin natin lahat.

[badsekktor]

you are one lucky girl...... try to live by yourself and you would surely be motivated. do not wait until you dont have somebody to fall back to.....

[_Cathy_]

So, how's the job hunting?

baby steps

[_Cathy_]

I finished updating my CV. hehe. I hope I get a good job coz my parents aren't getting and younger and I want them to enjoy their money and not to spend on me anymore.

Iisipin ko na lang talaga na kasama ang sama ng loob sa suweldo. Bakit kasi kailangan pang magkaron ng difficult tao sa office. Dati naman ang saya saya namin sa office naman tapos biglang may bwisit na boss.

[b1rken5tock]

baby steps

ang ginagawa ko, hanap ng work, tapos pag meron asungot at talagang inde ko makayanan ang ginagawang trato sa akin then i start looking for another job then move out...

mahirap na nga ang buhay pati ba sa trabaho may pasakit pa rin..

good luck, i'm sure you will find a job that you will like and enjoy and at the same time make money...marami dyan.. hanap hanap lang...

[_Cathy_]

good luck, i'm sure you will find a job that you will like and enjoy and at the same time make money...marami dyan.. hanap hanap lang...

Mag dilang anghel ka sana

[_Cathy_]

Ang hirap maghanap ng work I talked to my friend who's a head hunter and she said that my work gap is too lang na daw. I am overqualified for a staff position (because of my MBA) and underqualified for a managerial position (because of my work experience - 4 years lang)

[CoDer]

Banat lang ng banat Cathy, never die on your self...

[170kphlang]

here is my motivation for working as i quote a bumper sticker from an old schooler vehicle i saw on my way to a mall one day..

it says there "work sux but I need the bux", its really true..

i myself have a plan on establishing my own business, but as of now i'm studying and working at the same time in my father's company.. working for capital of my future business and studying for knowledge in that business. I'm just lucky like you that my parents are the ones paying for my tuitions.. by the way I'm not taking graduate school, I'm taking Restaurant Operations and Culinary Arts. yeah i can inherit my father's business but I don't want it to happen that way, I want (if destiny permits) to be successful on a business on my own. we all know na yung pagpapaaral sa atin ng mga magulang natin ay investment nila para sa kapakanan natin. at mababayaran natin ito sa kanila not in the form of money but in the form of a successful person whatever it may be.

[morrissey_05]

find something you love to do. then it won't feel like work at all.

[_Cathy_]

I have several companies is mind. The problem is they won't take me in. hehe.

My ultimate dream is to have my own gym but that's far from being realised.

[wildthing]

bakit... may pera ba sa gym???

well kung gym ang plan mong negosyo....why not work on an existing gym na maganda sa pananaw mo... so you can understand the true nature of that business and realize kung yun nga ang negosyo na para sa iyo.

kung overqualified ka.... you can always make "customized" CV depende sa papasukan mo... downgrade your qualifications (mainly remove your MBA from your CV perhaps).

who told you that having a 4 year work experience na non-supervisory position is NOT enough qualifications???

MBA's are not best taken kung less than 2 years work ka.... sa 4 years na work.... marami ka ng na observe ng dapat gawin ng tauhan at dapat gawin ng isang bisor or boss (isn't that the reason why you know that you had a "bad" boss before?!?) kung eng-eng ka you wouldn't have known that di ba...

btw why would you fear another bad boss??? is there really such a thing as a good boss (anyway)?

wait 'til you become a boss on your own (duon mo sabihin sa akin na hindi ka bad boss like your bad boss...hehehe)

bottomline, just set your mind - that since boss/es is always higher than you are...always expect that if you look up to them, you will first see their a**hole before you see their face/s... i am sure that would make you smile all the time.

ganyan ginawa ko... so everyday ako ay happy .... yun nga lang nasa boss position na ako ngayon... kaya alam ko rin bakit yung mga tao ko naka smile when they see me.